Monday, August 9, 2010

How to Attract People to You Without a Word by Dick Read (SalesPartners)



The following is titled "How to Be Totally, 100 % Present" (an excerpt from Blair Singer's book, "Little Voice" Mastery. Techniques courtesy of Jayne Johnson.

"This little voice management technique is very powerful. It takes two people, or you could do this in a mirror with yourself.

Sit knee-to-knee (you don't have to touch each other) and look at eachother, eyeball-to-eyeball, without talking.

I know it seems weird, but the purpose of this is to get you present and centered when you're feeling scattered, overwhelmed, or frenzied, or if you simply need to be totally focused when approaching a challenge.

The rules, as you face each other, are no talking and no flinching for at least three minutes.

If you can do it for longer than that, great. The little voice in your brain will start going crazy.

"This is nuts," it will say. "What does this person think of me? I don't want to do this. I've got other things to do."

That's okay. Just let your little voice run on. Do your best to stay in the present.

If you can do this, you'll find magical things happen. All of a sudden your brain will become very quiet. You'll be able to listen to yourself.

You can connect with the other person. That doesn't mean you have to be in love with that other person - you don't need to find him or her attractive, or even like that person. You just have to remain present.

After a while of practicing this, your ability to connect, listen, and stay in the moment will be incredible.

The next time your spouse talks to you, you will really hear it.

The next time your sales prospect tells you something, you'll feel connected, instead of listening to your little voice on overdrive as it scrambles for answers.

You will find people attracted to you because somehow they feel connected, understood, and acknowledged."

For the rest of this technique, one of 21 techniques for reprogramming your mind for an amazing life, please refer to technique # 10 in Singer's book, "Little Voice" Mastery.

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