Breaking up is hard to do—Not Impossible - Lily's Love Tips

Breaking up is an unfortunate part of modern life. Dealing with the emotional devastation of a break up is difficult at best. However, there are some strategies to handle successfully the end of a relationship. The loss of a relationship does not have to be the emotional baggage you carry with you. Breaking up can give you the opportunity to survive—possibly even a chance to flourish and improve.

Here are some things to do when you are faced with the heartache of a break up:

Give yourself time.
Taking time to come to terms with a loss is important to the healing process. The old saying is true—time heals all wounds. Breaking up is about as real an emotional wound can be. Just be careful with time. Do not turn the time needed to an excuse to become withdrawn and reclusive. Do not rush into healing. Remember—you will heal.

Keep busy.
Staying occupied is an excellent way to get over a breakup. Volunteer, help friends, try to get a second job. Do things that you enjoy. It will lift your spirits and speed up the healing process.

Meet new people.
Start some new social contacts to replace the ones you have lost. Go to shows, attend concerts or volunteer your time. Putting yourself “out there” is a great way to bring new people into your life, and put some fresh new energy into your daily life.

Take care of yourself.
Use this time to reassess your health and well-being. Take the chance to start exercising and eating right. During a break up, feeling better starts with your good health. A healthy lifestyle is the best way to keep your spirits high during a breakup. Resist the temptation to compensate by excessive eating, drinking or lethargy.

Refocus your inner energies.
Now is the time to take the energy you previously put into your relationship and turn it inwards, towards yourself. Pamper your inner being, take long baths or finish that novel you started reading (or writing). Breaking up gives you the chance for some “me time.”

Adopt a pet.
Bringing someone new into your life does not just mean the two-legged variety. Rescue a companion from the shelter; it is a great way to bring a new love into your life. People who have an animal in their lives are proven happier and healthier. Nothing goes better in rough patches of life than the unconditional love of a pet. However, make sure you give them the time they need. Don’t neglect your new companion, it will do both of you good.

Surround yourself with friends and family.
This is the time where you need a strong circle of friends. For times as this, it is why we have those people we consider close. Good friends will go out of their way to help you though a break up. Family will also love you unconditionally, and will come out to support you in your time of need. If your relationships with your friends and family suffered from the time you spent with your sweetie, now is the time to patch things up.

Breaking up does not have to be the end of the world. To yourself, you must respect that you are in pain, but see it as an opportunity to heal and to become better. The pain will certainly pass and can make you a stronger person in the end. Your next love—and they are out there—will benefit from your personal growth.