Your typical knee jerk reactions. Those automatic, habitual ways you have of
reacting to certain situations. For example, someone hurts you and
you clam up and withdraw from them or your friend is late to meet
you and you send her waves of seething resentment when she arrives
or your mate fails to do what he said he would do so you pepper him
with accusatory questions.
What is your predominant knee jerk reaction? What type of situation
sets it off? Can you feel it coming? Can you catch yourself before
you react? No matter how long you have had the pattern of reacting
the way you do, know that it is a habit and habits can be broken.
As we have said repeatedly, awareness is the first step. Choice is
the second step. Once you are aware of what you do, choose to do
something different.
Let's take the above examples and choose a different response.
1. Someone says something that hurts you, but instead of clamming up
and withdrawing, you let them know you are bothered by what they
said. Take responsibility for your reaction and don't blame
them. Instead of "You made me feel bad", choose "I felt bad when you
said I look like a stork when I dance."
2. Your friend is late for your meeting, but instead of sending eye
daggers, you tell her that being on time is a high value to you and
ask that if she is going to be late to please call you OR if
you know your friend is consistently late, be late too!
3. Your mate fails to stop for groceries on the way home, but
instead of questioning his memory and his commitment to you, ask if
there is a reason why he was unable to keep his promise. Ask if he
is still willing to go get the groceries. React with a smile instead
of an accusation and have fun watching his reaction!
In other words, be unpredictable! Be lighter and more playful.
Choose a different response. Just make sure the other person is
sitting down when you do!
Today will bring you a new awareness, a lesson or a manifestation
that you are making progress - IF YOU LOOK FOR IT! No matter how
large or small, please record it in your Evidence Journal. It will
only take a few moments and will AUTOMATICALLY put you in the Flow.
Truly Caring for Your Success!
Dr. Robert Anthony
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