Not always all that bad. I had been married twice before and they didn't work out, etc. A lot of it was just not picking the right person to be with. The awesome thing though is I have a beautiful daughter who is married and have two awesome children who are my grand children! I also have a terrific son who just got married recently and will one day have children of his own.
I was with a man for almost 13 years and we were engaged to get married. But towards the end he decided he didn't love me enough to keep working at the relationship and telling how I was driving him a way, etc. Translation: I met a younger woman and I am moving in with her, but I won’t tell you that for several months or never and will find out on your own." This happened 3 and a half years ago.
At the time, I was almost 56 years old and my life was turning into a made-for-television movie. My fiancee was leaving me for a pretty, younger woman. His timing couldn’t have been worse: I felt old, overweight and depressed.
I decided to sell my house because in the almost 4 years of trying to keep up with the house finances and yard-work, etc. I just couldn't hack it anymore. It was taking a toll me. So I decided to downsize and to go ahead and purchase a mobile home in a 55+ community when the house is sold. I am looking forward to it and also getting impatient for my house to sell right now and I am ready to start a new chapter in my life.
I have forayed into dating, but I did so reluctantly at first. After all, when I last dated I was in my early 40's. I have been on blind dates. I have tried online dating, meeting people at bars, friends with benefits and I have even had a relationship that lasted a couple of weeks. I have dated younger men and I liked it! But it usually ends up with my friends and me laughing about how badly these things turn out. Note: Never trust a profile picture on a dating site.
When asked about my marital status I seem to get sympathy from people. I don’t tell them my story but they ask. Then people open up. I hear a lot of stories from men and women about betrayal. It seems to be going around.
When this all started I couldn’t breathe. But I was given a gift. I have a wonderful life with new friends and I still have my trusted old friends. I am doing things that are important to me like writing and blogging. I am now working on getting 40 lbs back off and getting my health back into check.
If you find yourself divorcing in your 50s or 60s or breaking up, it is overwhelming. You need to surround yourself with positive people. Divorcing/breaking up does not mean “alone”! You may not have a partner, but you have yourself. Get strong and healthy and focus on doing things that you enjoy. When you are happy anything is possible.
I have survived and, yep, I am sexy!
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